I’m no Relationship expert but I believe before you try to get to know someone, You should at least know yourself to an extent.

To know yourself is to know your personality,to be able to identify why you love or hate something. It is to see the similarities (character-wise) between you and your parents/siblings. It is to know what you want, What you want out of life, your career, your Relationships. How large you want your circle, what kind of food you like, sports, pets. What are your strengths, weaknesses, morals, limits, aspirations.

To know yourself is to be at Peace with yourself, your conflicts reduce, less regrets, less confusion. It is to know whose criticism or appreciation matters to you. It is to understand your relationship with friends and family. It is to take responsibility for your actions. You know what you are comfortable with, you take time to observe societal cues, embrace what makes you a better you while discarding the negative ones.

I can’t say i have found myself, but I have the confidence to keep searching. Maybe one never truly finds themselves after all. You are a work in progress, maybe all we get is a Temporary Pragmatic Rendition.

If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship.

Steve Maraboli

Written by Arogundade Toluwanimi. IAA.