I’m no Relationship expert but I believe before you try to get to know someone, You should at least know yourself to an extent.
To know yourself is to know your personality,to be able to identify why you love or hate something. It is to see the similarities (character-wise) between you and your parents/siblings. It is to know what you want, What you want out of life, your career, your Relationships. How large you want your circle, what kind of food you like, sports, pets. What are your strengths, weaknesses, morals, limits, aspirations.
To know yourself is to be at Peace with yourself, your conflicts reduce, less regrets, less confusion. It is to know whose criticism or appreciation matters to you. It is to understand your relationship with friends and family. It is to take responsibility for your actions. You know what you are comfortable with, you take time to observe societal cues, embrace what makes you a better you while discarding the negative ones.
I can’t say i have found myself, but I have the confidence to keep searching. Maybe one never truly finds themselves after all. You are a work in progress, maybe all we get is a Temporary Pragmatic Rendition.
If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship.
Steve Maraboli
Written by Arogundade Toluwanimi. IAA.
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5 Comments
Dec 01, 2019
Thanks. I had a good read. Knowing oneself would allow people know how to treat you, what they offer you.
Dec 01, 2019
Nice piece , knowing your self your values, self discovery ,is the right path to success
Dec 02, 2019
Kai! This is true and I must say, it is well comprehensive. Self know is the first step to any Relationship even, if not it will always lead to conflicts.
Dec 02, 2019
This is interesting. Starting the day with this, is apt. Keep it up
Dec 04, 2019
Good job Ambassador Toluwanimi. I think knowing yourself has to do with your personality. What you want, need and what you can do in the face of challenges and comfort. Sometimes, it is somehow difficult to predict one's self until there comes comfort/challenge. In all, discovering yourself is key. God bless you dear. Message received.